Situation 1 Constructivist way of dealing with this
conflict
- Don’t
interfere in the beginning.
- If it
reaches a point that the children begin to physically battle for the
piece, immediately interfere.
- Maintain
your calm and don’t show any anxiety.
- Begin
questioning both G and D. Help them develop a shared focus of attention so
that all the parties know what problem they would be discussing about.
- Comfort
G who is crying uncontrollably.
- Ask
questions like ‘What happened?’, ‘Who was playing first?’, and ‘Who broke
the piece?’ Make sure you hear both sides of story.
- Hopefully
and most probably D will admit that he broke the piece.
- You can say, ‘D, G is feeling really sad
right now and he is crying, what can we do to make him feel better?’ and
‘What can we do to solve this problem?’
- You
can ‘suggest’ that they need to do something to fix the broken piece.
- In
this way you validate the emotional feelings involved in the situation.
- Hopefully
G will come up with ideas like taping it up or you can suggest.
- Help D tape up the two pieces.
- Then ‘casually’ tell them that if a situation like this arise in future, it is best to wait turns or use words to negotiate how the game has to be played and if you can’t come to an agreement you can get an adult.
Situation 1 Analysis
- The
process here is: 1.Identification of conflict 2.Comforting
the hurt child 3.Working
towards its solution.
- D got
a chance to restore his relationship with G and his own self-esteem.
- D
didn’t feel that he was a bad person instead he felt good about himself
that he had mended the broken piece and made G feel better.
- G was happy that you recognized his
concerns and comforted him and D did something to make him feel better.
Hence, none of the children carried negative feelings for
the other. Instead, it made the bond of friendship stronger between them.
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