Monday, 7 April 2014

Conflict Resolution contd...

Situation 1 Constructivist way of dealing with this conflict

  • Don’t interfere in the beginning.
  • If it reaches a point that the children begin to physically battle for the piece, immediately interfere.
  • Maintain your calm and don’t show any anxiety.
  • Begin questioning both G and D. Help them develop a shared focus of attention so that all the parties know what problem they would be discussing about.
  • Comfort G who is crying uncontrollably.
  • Ask questions like ‘What happened?’, ‘Who was playing first?’, and ‘Who broke the piece?’ Make sure you hear both sides of story.
  • Hopefully and most probably D will admit that he broke the piece.
  •  You can say, ‘D, G is feeling really sad right now and he is crying, what can we do to make him feel better?’ and ‘What can we do to solve this problem?’
  • You can ‘suggest’ that they need to do something to fix the broken piece.
  • In this way you validate the emotional feelings involved in the situation.
  • Hopefully G will come up with ideas like taping it up or you can suggest.
  • Help D tape up the two pieces.
  • Then ‘casually’ tell them that if a situation like this arise in future, it is best to wait turns or use words to negotiate how the game has to be played and if you can’t come to an agreement you can get an adult.

Situation 1 Analysis

  • The process here is: 1.Identification of conflict 2.Comforting the hurt child 3.Working towards its solution.
  • D got a chance to restore his relationship with G and his own self-esteem.
  • D didn’t feel that he was a bad person instead he felt good about himself that he had mended the broken piece and made G feel better.
  •  G was happy that you recognized his concerns and comforted him and D did something to make him feel better.

Hence, none of the children carried negative feelings for the other. Instead, it made the bond of friendship stronger between them.

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